Listening and Respecting

I'm a big believer in listening to and respecting small, tiny babies needs. Because I think it sets them up to become happy toddlers, teenagers and people. Why? Because as adults we like to be seen and heard and find it infuriating when we are not seem and heard. I'm kind of thinking that when babies are told when to sleep, when to eat, how much to eat etc, we are basically telling them I know best and totally disrespecting them. My thoughts are that we are saying to them, don't trust your instincts listen to me because I know what you need best. Well, do we? Are the toddlers who tantrum really just rebelling, shouting in their own small way "listen to ME!!!!" My own small experience (and from listening to others who have parented in the slow parenting way vs I know best way) is that babies and toddlers who are slow parented don't seem to tantrum, cry, be described as needy anything like those who are parented in the other way. Hummmm food for thought.